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Perception check.
They say perceptions are like noses, each unique to us. How often do we stop to question our own perceptions? In a world where assumptions can cloud our judgment, it's essential to pause and evaluate whether our perceptions align with reality. Let's reflect on how our perspectives shape our understanding of the world around us.
Our perceptions act as filters through which we interpret the events, people, and situations we encounter. These filters are influenced by our past experiences, cultural backgrounds, beliefs, and biases. As a result, what we perceive may not always reflect the objective truth. For example, two people may witness the same event but interpret it differently based on their individual perceptions.
Moreover, our perceptions not only influence how we see the world but also how we interact with others. They affect our communication, decision-making, and relationships. When we fail to question our own perceptions, we risk misunderstanding others and perpetuating stereotypes and misconceptions.
So, how often do we question our own perceptions? Are we willing to challenge our assumptions and consider alternative viewpoints? It's a practice that requires self-awareness, humility, and a willingness to engage in critical reflection. By questioning our perceptions, we open ourselves up to new perspectives and opportunities for growth.
“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth." - Marcus Aurelius”
Perception Check!
I've had people assume whatever they willed about me. Some thought the worst, others the best. The contrast was stark; everyone had their own perception of me. Recently, I caught up with an old childhood friend. Our paths kept crossing, so I figured, why not solidify this friendship? As we reminisced about the past, I was left jaw-dropped. Nothing he thought of me aligned with my reality. Mentally, it took me to a low place. What if everyone thought of me like that? How could he perceive me as a woman who's been with many men? It's a societal assumption that pretty women have the most partners. Later, he admitted his wrongful thoughts and offered a flat apology. I've had to work with people, even family, who thought the worst of me. So, what I mean is, just live your life anyway. People will think whatever they want, even if you're an open book.
#Understanding
It's been a journey of understanding for me. Coming to terms with the fact that people's perceptions of me don't define who I am has been liberating. It's easy to get caught up in the opinions of others, especially when they don't align with our truth. But I've learned that true self-worth comes from within, not from external validation. It's about embracing our flaws and imperfections, knowing that they make us uniquely human. And while it's natural to feel hurt by others' misconceptions, it's important to remember that their perception is not our reality. We have the power to define ourselves on our own terms, regardless of what others may think.
#Challenging Assumptions
One crucial aspect is learning to challenge our assumptions. Assumptions are the unconscious beliefs or attitudes we hold about ourselves, others, and the world around us. They can influence our perceptions and behaviors without us even realizing it. Challenging assumptions involves critically examining these beliefs and questioning their validity.
Here are some key points to consider:
Awareness: The first step in challenging assumptions is becoming aware of them. Pay attention to the thoughts and beliefs that arise in your mind, especially in situations where you feel strong emotions or judgments.
Questioning: Once you've identified an assumption, take the time to question it. Ask yourself why you believe it to be true and whether there is evidence to support it. Consider alternative perspectives and possibilities.
Seeking Evidence: Look for evidence that either supports or refutes your assumption. Is there data or information that confirms your belief? Are there experiences or observations that challenge it?
Open-Mindedness: Approach the process of challenging assumptions with an open mind. Be willing to consider viewpoints that differ from your own and be receptive to new information that may challenge your beliefs.
Flexibility: Recognize that assumptions are not set in stone. They can change and evolve as we gain new experiences and insights. Stay flexible and be willing to revise your beliefs based on new evidence or perspectives.
By challenging our assumptions, we can gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us. We become more open-minded, empathetic, and better equipped to navigate the complexities of human interaction.
#Success
In today's digital age, social media has become a prominent platform for showcasing our lives, achievements, and successes. However, the curated nature of social media can often lead to assumptions and perceptions that may not accurately reflect reality. This phenomenon can have profound effects on how we perceive ourselves and others, particularly when it comes to notions of success and failure.
Let me share another experience.
Naturally, I'm quite a reserved person and private. It's not a conscious act, but I just seem to mind my business and keep my affairs to myself. People have asked, 'Are you making money?' or 'I know you're doing this and that, but maybe you could go this path.' I've had some friends inquire about what contracts I'm working on, yet they don't see money. The thing is, I'm modest. Anyone who knows me knows that. I'm not a show-off. I don't splash my contract details on social media, flaunt my trips, or showcase what I eat everywhere, nor do I share about my relationships. This doesn't mean I'm not doing well in life or I'm lacking something. It simply means I'm minding my business—mind yours.
Many of us are going through the pressures of society to showcase who we are, what we have, and who we are with. Look, the world isn't an exhibition. Success now is measured on social media. If your account doesn't show any of these, you are probably some poor fellow. Social media has robbed and is robbing many young fellows of peace and contentment just to fit in the societal standards. No, you don't have to. You don’t owe anybody that.
Resist the pressure to conform and live life on your own terms. Embrace authenticity, cherish real connections, and find fulfillment in the things that truly matter. Your worth is not defined by likes, followers, or material possessions. It's about living a life that aligns with your values and brings you genuine joy and fulfillment. So, dare to defy societal standards and pave your path to success.
#Losses
"Perception can lead to losses we may not even realize at first. When we allow ourselves to be defined by others' perceptions, we risk losing our sense of self-worth and confidence. In my own experience, I found myself sinking into a state of low self-esteem as I grappled with the mismatch between others' perceptions and my reality. This loss of self-esteem can be debilitating, impacting our relationships, opportunities, and overall well-being.
Moreover, allowing others' perceptions to cloud our judgment can result in missed opportunities for genuine connections and deeper understanding. In my interaction with my childhood friend, I initially felt disheartened by his misconceptions about me. It wasn't until later that I realized the missed opportunity for authentic connection and mutual understanding.
Ultimately, the losses incurred from allowing others' perceptions to dictate our sense of self can be profound. But recognizing this allows us to reclaim our power and chart our own path forward."
#Moving Forward
So, how do we move forward in the face of others' perceptions? It's about embracing authenticity and living our truth unapologetically. It's about surrounding ourselves with people who see us for who we truly are and support us unconditionally. It's about letting go of the need for validation from others and finding validation within ourselves. As the saying goes, 'What other people think of you is none of your business.' So let's focus on being true to ourselves, living authentically, and letting go of the burden of others' perceptions. Because at the end of the day, the only opinion that truly matters is our own.
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#Reflections
As I reflect on the journey we've taken together through the different facets of perception, understanding, moving forward, and losses, I'm reminded of the profound impact that our perceptions can have on our lives. This journey has been one of self-discovery, growth, and resilience, and I'm grateful for the opportunity to share it with you.
Through the ups and downs, I've come to realize the importance of embracing authenticity, standing firm in my truth, and refusing to let others' perceptions define me. It's a constant reminder that our worth is not determined by external validation, but by the strength of our character and the depth of our convictions.
I've learned that true understanding comes from empathy, compassion, and an open mind. It's about seeing beyond the surface and embracing the complexity of human experiences. And while it's natural to feel the sting of losses incurred from misguided perceptions, I've found solace in the knowledge that every setback is an opportunity for growth and transformation.
Here's to embracing our truth and living life on our terms.
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Perception and You
What we see depends mainly on what we look for." - John Lubbock
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“Perception is reality to the one in the experience." - T. F. Hodge
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